Combating imposter syndrome
Do you ever feel that you are not good enough? Do you constantly second-guess yourself? You may be suffering from imposter syndrome.
According to the Harvard Business Review, imposter syndrome is a “collection of feelings of inadequacy that persist despite evident success,” and can stem from an inability to own or internalize your accomplishments.
This syndrome occurs when your confidence does not measure up to your skill level, leaving you feeling less qualified, capable, or useful than you actually are.
Imposter syndrome has strong links to perfectionism and can keep us from taking risks and opening ourselves up to new possibilities due to a feeling of inadequacy.
A person affected by imposter syndrome may procrastinate out of fear that they won’t be able to meet the high standards they set for themselves. Furthermore, they may stress and over-prepare, spending more time on a something than necessary. Imposter syndrome thrives in academic and professional life, but it can creep into personal life, too.
Whether in class, at work, or in a relationship, imposter syndrome leaves you feeling anxious that someone, somehow, will discover the truth — you are a fraud.
Sound familiar?
Here are some tips on how to combat imposter syndrome:
1. Recognize imposter syndrome feelings when they emerge: When you are feeling anxious, fraudulent, or useless, take a minute and recognize that this is your imposter syndrome distorting reality.
2. Talk it out: Privately, we each doubt ourselves, and because people rarely voice their doubts, we think we are alone in our uncertainty. However, an article on NBC News BETTER shared that a recent study found 70% of the U.S. population experiences imposter syndrome. That being said, it can be helpful to talk about it with others who are or have been affected.
3. Recognize that nobody knows everything: Nobody is perfect. We all have our strong points and our weak points. By keeping an open mindset and believing in your ability to figure things out, you can work to grow self-confidence.
4. Phone a friend: If you are feeling like an imposter in a specific situation, run the situation by someone you trust and get their take on it. Most often, they will tell us the truth and likely put our minds at ease.
5. Recognize there is no such thing as failure: If you look at failure with an open mindset, it becomes a lesson that will help you grow. So, when something does not work out, analyze the situation and move forward. Do not beat yourself up. Stay persistent and positive.
6. Practice self-compassion: You would not tell someone else that they are useless or inadequate, so why would you tell yourself that? Moreover, if someone came to you and said they were useless and inadequate, you would do all you could to convince them of the truth that they are not. Direct the kindness you give others to yourself.
7. Make a list: Jot down your strengths and accomplishments to refer back to when your imposter syndrome flairs up. It will help put things into perspective.
8. Affirm: Verbally state, “I am valuable. I am worthwhile. I am capable.” When you feel like you’re drowning in self-doubt, remember … you are valuable, worthwhile and capable.